Tuesday, November 17, 2009

What is the usual order of procession for the wedding party?

I have the usual people in my bridal party. Best man, M.O.H., groomsmen, bridesmaids, flower girls, etc. etc etc.





What is the usual order for the wedding party to enter?

What is the usual order of procession for the wedding party?
I've seen a few in my years as a wedding musician. Groom at the alter with the paster. mother of the bride if you'd like. then the last brides maid first with the last grooms men all the way up to the BM and the MOH. Then the girls and then YOu!
Reply:I wanted to correct the "traditional" Catholic wedding processional in the above link. This is INCORRECT. The Catholic Church does NOT support the outdated and sexist tradition of the bride being "given away". This is NOT in any official church doctrine, it is simply a secular outdated tradition. More and more churches are banning it, thankfully. Feel free the research this.





The CORRECT way is for the priest/cantor, etc. to process in, then the bridal party (either in pairs, in rows, or as singles), and then the BRIDE and GROOM TOGETHER, as THEY are celebrating the Sacrament of Marriage. THEY will be representing the ceremony "message" that day, not the priest, so they enter LAST together.





This is how my Church does it, and many other Catholic Churches are not allowing the bride to be "given away" either. I would have walked with my fiance anyway, as we are both equal consenting adults who are entering into marriage. In my mind there should be no other way. But I am sooo glad my church is trying to keep wedding ceremonies true to the faith.





I cannot wait until ALL brides get rid of the outdated, sexist, degrading, insulting, and horrid tradition of being given away to her new "owner" like a cow, while he waits for his "gift" at the front of the aisle.





If you still want a "traditional" secular procession, there is no reason why a bride can't walk down the aisle herself, unless her legs are painted on.





I don't buy into that "I want to honor my parents" crap. There are many others ways to include your mom/dad in your wedding without them walking you down the aisle. They're not getting married, YOU are. You don't seem them walking your brothers down the aisle, do you? And yet I'm sure they'll still feel included on HIS big day.





I have to wonder what is going on in a bride's head when she has a great career, her own house, has lived away from home for 5 years, and has had a live in boyfriend for 2, and yet she still has her dad walk her down the aisle...what is woring with today's women?





EDIT: How can you thumbs down FACTS...it's the truth...whether you like it or not. How dare you insult my religion with your brainwashed ignorance...





http://www.onewed.com/articles/34/cathol...





The bottom line is, while there are some "common" ways to enter, some religions and/or cultures do things differently, with good reason. Also, for secular weddings, the couple can choose to enter their own wedding however they want.
Reply:To be honest, it really depends on which religion you are. In general, its different at different religious centers. Here is a website that gives examples for each religious tradition





http://weddings.about.com/od/yourwedding...
Reply:Normally the bridesmaids enter followed by the maid on honor. Next the flower girl and ring bearer together. THen the mother of the bride usually stands as a signal for all to stand as the music (usually here comes the bride) plays as you enter with your father or whomever will be walking you down. As for the guys, they are usually already standing at the altar. They enter from the right with the officiant before the processional begins.


If they are not going to be at the altar with the groom they will enter with each of the bridesmaids and the MOH. Then the flower girl and ring bearer, then you. Hope this helps.


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